Love is defined to be a strong feeling of affection or intense feelings for something or someone in your life.
In this day and age I feel like love has lost it’s sanctity. There is always someone saying to an acquaintance they have known for all of five minutes that they “love them” but in actuality they are meaning to say “I like you a great deal as a friend”. That’s the thing about love, the word has become misunderstood and frequently misused. Love is something you can feel for your friends, family, partner and even pets, but is not to be misconstrued with the feeling if liking somebody.
Often there will be couples who are obsessed with the material things in life rather than the sanctity of love, if there is no affection there is no love. It is lovely for loved ones to buy you presents now and then but if your relationship relies on it then what do you really have? You have a friend you are too close to.
My opinions on the word love are very strong and I am very firm in the fact that there is a huge difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. If you love someone you are feeling what I call the “unromantic” side of love whereas if you are in love with someone you are feeling the “romantic” side of love. For example I love my best friend but I am in love with my partner.
I heard someone say recently that love isn’t about the great times you have with someone it is about how much you miss them the moment that the day is over. I think this is true, if you spend time with someone and enjoy it there and then but have no desire to do it again any time soon, you do not love that person. If you did love that person you would feel the need to see them again as soon as possible. The way I see it is if you aren’t willing to go out of your way to make that person feel appreciated you do not love them.
Tricky is the best word to describe love. Love is never easy, it is literally a human roller coaster ride of emotions that never stops, you begin to feel their emotions on top of your own and are there to console or congratulate them through every event in their lives. There are no words that could describe the feeling of loving someone and the best way to show it is through the little things you do every day to show the people you love how much you appreciate them.
Hand holding is the biggest small gesture that my partner uses to show me how much he loves me, simple but effective, I appreciate it so much because I know it’s his way of saying “I appreciate everything you do for me”. My best friend shows me she appreciates me by lending me books or even just helping me with the dishes when she is at my house, it may be such a small thing to do at the time but it really makes all the difference in the long run.
So for me love is all about the little things people do to show me I am appreciated, what are your views on love?