Would like to start by saying to my friend that I mean no harm with this post – you should be flattered that you gave me inspiration to write. Earlier on today I sent one of my good friends this picture of my new hair cut
Now admittedly it is a lot shorter than my normal cut, but I love it – I feel more like myself. However the response he gave me was actually quite insulting, not to me but to women in general. He said “well to each their own obviously, but for me i always found longer hair more attractive” Granted this is taken out of context, but the theme is still there. To suggest that I got my hair cut to be more attractive to people is insane because that is not who I am….however I also hope that no one feels enough pressure about their looks to feel like they have to get their hair cut a certain way to look attractive.
As I said before, I mean no harm to my friend…he was just speaking his opinion, this is more a stamp on society. Why is it that when a girl gets her hair cut really short it is deemed as unattractive, or boyish? Vice Versa why are men with long hair considered unattractive or girly? Surely we should be allowed to cut our hair any way we like to feel comfortable within our own bodies. This is not me saying that everyone in the world thinks this, but let me tell you that a lot more people think this way than you realise.I can’t count the many times I have heard even my myself and other family members saying “That boy seriously needs a hair cut”. I will no longer keep this attitude now that it has been thrown back in my direction – clearly karma is getting me back – if YOU feel comfortable that is all that matters.
If you know me personally then you know I dress how I like no matter what people say to me because it shouldn’t be a problem if I want to wear men’s clothing that fits me better and makes me feel comfortable, but I am friends with many people who feel the pressure of media far too much and dress in uncomfortable clothing just to make everyone around them happy. I even know a couple people who live their lives as a whole different gender than they would like to because it’s who they are expected to be or who they have to be to an extent. It is very saddening to me that people can’t be who they want to be because of society or the pressures of media.
We can help change this by being more open about situations like transvestism or transgender people, I know this will not happen any time soon because we have barely wrapped our heads around the LGB community never mind the LGBTQIA community but I have hope that one day people will find it silly that once upon a time we didn’t accept people for who they are. As humans we have been engineered to have opinions which is a good thing if we know how to use them correctly. It is NOT okay to abuse someone because of who they are, but unfortunately we have been raised in a world where ridicule and hate are the norm and people in power have given up on trying to change it.
I am not a stereotype, that is something I am incredibly proud of because it means I haven’t bowed down to the pressure I feel from others to be like a stereotypical female teenager. It is not who I am, I know that and don’t want to change a thing about me because I am wonderful, just like everyone else on the planet. Personal experience has taught me that the bullying goes away if you are confident and comfortable in yourself – that or I just don’t notice it any more or put it down to jealousy. The fact is I am the perfect version of myself and that is all I can ever strive to be. The minute you fine true happiness from with in yourself is the day you can conquer the world with out getting broken. Today is my day. Have you had yours yet?