Not only do I hear this phrase thrown around left right and centre, but I also get told this whenever I am feeling low. People mean well by using it but don’t realise how much they aren’t helping by saying it. The only time I ever get it used towards me is when something bad happens and I get upset about it, I mean it just seems to be everyone’s go to thing to say in those situations.
The problem I have is that I am very and fully aware that life goes on, being constantly reminded just makes me feel even worse because it’s one of the things getting me low in the first place. In my head I don’t understand why people don’t make more of a fuss when something bad happens, in most cases it feels like people are trying to shrug the negative thing off with a “life goes on” or “it’ll be okay” and if they aren’t doing that then they are shutting off emotionally around me and not responding to me at all. I mean I get that they want to try and stay positive, but it makes me feel awkward when negative things are not addressed because it gives off the impression that I am not allowed to express emotion towards it.
Life goes on but often not in the way it did before and adapting can be difficult, so once again saying “life goes on” to me both confuses and upsets me. When something dreadful happens either to me or to people close to me it impacts my life and possibly the lives of others around me so the fact that “life goes on” is irrelevant because my WHOLE life or at least a part of it has to change and adapt to it’s new surroundings and, as stated above, that will take time.
I appreciate that people try to help me, but I am sick of people telling me life goes on because it’s not the same life right now for me, it’s a different life that I haven’t become comfortable in yet. Yes the lives of others continue as normal but how is that supposed to make me feel better? If anything that makes me feel worse because I envy how comfortable they seem to be in their lives and wonder why I can’t enjoy the same luxury.
Life goes on, but only for some.