Have you ever been told that you weren’t smart enough to pursue the career you wanted to, or had someone laugh at you when you express interest in a certain sport? Has anyone ever told you that you could never succeed in the one thing that you’ve always wanted to do? Is there any time you can remember mentioning something that you have always wanted to and being told it was “impractical”, “stupid”, or been asked “And how will YOU succeed with that?”
I know I’ve been there, and trust me you shouldn’t be discouraged by the words of the negative people in the world.
This has actually been a real problem for me over the years, even from within my own family. People still, today, act as if I am incapable of achieving the things I want to do and it still to this day drags me down and causes me to be unproductive because with the negative words thrown my way comes the doubt, panic and worry that I won’t succeed. I imagine this is also an issue for many others that are told “That’s not a sensible career choice” etc. The thing is, why do we care what they think? It’s not like it should matter to them what you decide to do with your life, pursue your dreams because the only thing worse than failing is never trying at all.
Here is what I want you to think about – what will actually happen if you don’t succeed? Yeah that negative person gets to gloat for about half a day before feeling bad, you feel sad for a short period of time before picking yourself up again, but here’s the thing…it’s not the end of the world. At least you’d be able to say you tried which is a lot more honourable than “I didn’t do it because my teacher told me I wasn’t suited to that career”.
A recent story in the headlines about Kate Winslet being told to “Settle for the fat girl parts” really shows that the negative ninny’s in your life can be proved wrong (and in a major way). And let’s be honest, we all want to prove them wrong…even if our emotions don’t agree with us. I am sure it’s a much more satisfying feeling to be able to say “Yes, I succeeded when you said I wouldn’t.” than “Well I was too worried to try”. Don’t be put off by the naysayers and unsupportive people in your life. Try and try again until you have proved them wrong, it will feel more rewarding than not doing anything you want to do with your life.
I’ve been told on multiple occasions that I am not good enough to be a writer. Now I am not entirely certain as to why people seem to think I can’t succeed in this field, maybe it’s because I am dyslexic or because I always performed mediocrely in school, but whatever their reasons I plan to prove everyone wrong and get published. Watch this space.