Have we grown too sensitive?

January 8, 2017

This post is written in defense of the so-called “sexist” tweet Steve Martin made when making a tribute to her following her death saying the words “When I was a young man, Carrie Fisher she was the most beautiful creature I had ever seen. She turned out to be witty and bright as well.” Now he does mention her looks first, but says she was witty and bright as well. Why is this not insulting? Because he shared his first impression of her followed by his opinion having gotten to know her. The reactions were, however, sensitive.

2016 was full of loss in regard to the deaths of celebrities. We lost David Bowie, Prince, and most recently Carrie Fisher and her mother Debbie Reynolds. Many celebrities have expressed their grief about Carrie Fisher’s death publicly calling her their “Princess” often sharing their comments alongside a photo of Princess Leia in her gold bikini and received absolutely no backlash from the comments or the photo’s of Carrie Fisher in very little clothing, when you’d think the sensitive people on social media would be offended.

Now it isn’t considered sexist to share a photo of Carrie Fisher dressed in very little clothing, but apparently, for the sensitive folks, it is sexist for Steve Martin to tweet that he thought she was beautiful when he was a young man then she turned out to be witty and bright as well. It all started when New York Magazine wrote an article saying that Steve Martin focused on her looks instead of talents in the tweet and that started the twitter backlash causing the star to delete the tweet.

Some argued that Carrie Fisher was a feminist who fought against the objectification to women, which is fine, but I don’t think they read the tribute correctly. I read it is Steve Martin saying when he first saw her he was entrapped by her beauty and when he got to know her she was witty and bright as well. He is saying that she was not just a beauty, but also witty and bright. Sure he could have worded it better, but why should he have to? Not only is he from a different generation to most of the people complaining about the sexist comment which means he is accustomed to a certain way of talking, but what he did was compliment Fisher three times. If you can call her “Princess”, a degrading word in itself , and confine her in to one part of her life and post pictures of her wearing barely anything why are you getting so mad at Steve Martin for calling her beautiful witty and bright?

This isn’t the only instance of people being sensitive on the internet. Every single day there is a “drama” on at least one of the social media platforms about something someone has typed and shared publicly. My biggest problem with this is that the people complaining wouldn’t have the guts to say it in person. The internet has given us a platform to share opinions anonymously with no major consequence so we have forgotten about the human typing the words in the first place. We only see words on a screen and it has effected us negatively as a generation, we are in a place where every single soul has a say even if they aren’t heard in person and with this has come unnecessary drama stirring so people get noticed online.

As we are a watered-down generation with everything handed to us on a plate we have nothing major, like a war or hardships in general, to focus on so feel the need to cause a cold war via the internet. It’s not our fault, we have grown up this way, but the generation above ours must be shaking their heads and telling us to just get on with it instead of misplacing your anger and sensitivity just for something to do. If you looked at the amount of time you spent on social media arguing with “so-called sexist 1” and “so-called racist 1” you’d be ashamed about how much time you are wasting in place of doing something productive and less focussed on your sensitive nature.

Yes, we need to fix sexism, racism etc etc, but attacking people through a screen won’t change anything – especially when they haven’t actually said anything that bad. We need to focus more on these things in the workplace and more important areas, not the deep depths of the internet where at the end of the day you’ve argued for nothing because you’ve been typing to someone who might not even read your messages.

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  • Reply talesofkatja January 9, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    So true! In many cases I think people who moan about ‘PC culture’ are overreacting, but in this case I agree with you completely. It isn’t offensive to her memory that one of her friends writes a tribute like this to her, if anything, it sums up Carrie Fisher very well. Yes, many people were first struck by her beauty, but as Steve Martin points out, she was so much more than that! She was fun and sarcastic and witty and inspiring, but like most people, he saw her face before he saw her heart.

    • Reply Jodie Paterson January 9, 2017 at 12:24 pm

      Precisely. It was a man commenting on how he viewed his friend. Thing is there would have been no problem if it had been said in an interview.

      • Reply talesofkatja January 9, 2017 at 12:27 pm

        It’s like you’re saying about social media as well, it makes it very easy to spring to arms as a ‘keyboard warrior’ without actually thinking like you normally would

        • Reply Jodie Paterson January 9, 2017 at 12:32 pm

          Yeah because you’re not seeing the person’s emotion behind the words

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