Having moved in with my partner this weekend I’ve been thinking a lot about how I knew I was ready to move in with my partner, there are so many things, big and small, that made me feel ready for this new big step in my life so I thought I’d share them for the people considering this big step.
Are you ready to move in with your partner?
They feel like home
You can live in a house, but to make it feel like a home can be difficult, if you’ve found the person that can make every house feel like a home for you just because they are there then you’re definitely ready for the big change.
You Communicate well
If you can have discussions instead of arguments then that’s great. Although you will argue sometimes, you have to be adult about the difficult things. As long as you can come to a conclusion to your arguments in an adult way everything will be fine.
You Want To
This sounds like an obvious one, but if you don’t want to move in with someone, then don’t. Don’t get forced in to a decision you don’t want to make yet, don’t get rushed in to things you’re not ready for.
You trust them
If you don’t fully trust someone then you’re not ready to move in with them. No trust will create resentment and it won’t go well in the long run. In fact I would consider ending your relationship with someone if you don’t trust them.
You Love Them
Once again, this sounds like an obvious one, but if you don’t love your partner then don’t drag them along much further than needed. Be honest, have the discussion and everyone will be happier in the long run.
They Feel Like Family
If you feel comfortable enough with them and could consider them family and know you’d be the first person there in an emergency then you’re definitely ready to move in with your partner.
You Already Spend All Your nights At One Place
Once you get to this stage it becomes silly to keep paying for 2 separate places. This is when you should bring up the discussion and get moving because you’re clearly ready to move in together.
You Already Know Each Others Bad Habits
If you’ve been spending a lot of time together you will surely be aware of all your partners bad habits and be willing to live with and love them despite all of the things that might annoy you. My partner, for example, is a really loud eater and it can drive me insane, but I don’t mind anymore.
You’re willing to compromise
Compromising is so important when you move in with someone. You need to make space for each other and accept that everything is now shared. If one of you doesn’t want a table, then get a fold away one. Stuff like that.
So that’s my advice for knowing when you’re ready to move in with your partner. Did this help you? Do you have any extra advice? Please comment below and start a discussion 🙂
If you’ve been thinking of couple therapy before taking the big leap then I would recommend reading this article before you make any big decisions: https://www.regain.us/advice/therapist/couples-therapy-cost-is-it-worth-it/