Growing up. It’s tough. For months, even years, I’ve been surprised at how “young” the people I went to school with were getting married, having kids, moving in together, and just generally growing up faster than me. The surprise came from a place of not realising how old I actually was. I went from school to college, to uni and then to the job I’m currently in now. For me, everything has just fit into place and it’s all gone far to quickly and it doesn’t feel like THAT long ago I was in school making excuses for why my homework hadn’t been done.
This week I had the grim realisation that I am now one of the people from school who has made a big leap into adulthood and growing up what with having my boyfriend move in with me. That’s also when I realised that…maybe it wasn’t “too soon” for those other people to be getting married or having kids. Why? Because when you know, you know. For me moving in with my significant other felt like something so natural and it really didn’t feel like a big decision.
Here’s the deal. No one other than yourself can tell you when you are ready to do something, everyone moves at different paces. If you’re not ready to jump ahead in your relationships then ignore what everyone else is doing. Do what feels right for you. You don’t need to follow suit just because you see everyone else doing it. And hey, they might seem a bit young to be doing it, but eventually, you’ll come to realise that young means different things to different people.
For me being young is right now. I’m in my early 20’s with my entire life ahead of me, loads of mistakes to make, and a plethora of experiences waiting for me. I’m at the age where something bad can quickly turn in to something good, there are still options for me to do whatever I want due to having to ties and I have a level of independence to do those things.
Something else to consider is that when a big decision feels easy and doesn’t make you want to hide in your bed for weeks then you’re probably ready for it. If you have hesitations and doubts then wait, you might feel differently in a few months, but don’t rush into anything you don’t feel comfortable with. Don’t rush growing up because you see others do it or feel the pressure. Growing up in your own time is important. I know I am.
I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t feel intimidated by all the big things happening to people you still have on Facebook despite not talking to them for years. Your life is moving at your pace and that is fine. The big things will happen to you as well, you just have to wait patiently for them.