I’m an introvert. I don’t enjoy being *too* sociable and absolutely treasure my alone time. I’m content in hiding away in my flat for an entire weekend instead of going to see friends or family. This isn’t to say I don’t want to see them, it’s just that sometimes I can’t. If I don’t give myself time to recharge after a busy week, weekend or month then I will not cope very well and I will get grumpy and snippy because I am socially (and sometimes physically) exhausted.
There’s no shame in admitting that you need a break from certain things like socialising, family commitments, hobbies etc. Sometimes we all need a night or 2 where we just sit and watch a film or a TV show to recuperate. It’s all part of a developing self-care routine: learning to take a break. For a while, I watched Gilmore Girls in my hiding time and it became important to me that I watched at least one episode a night, and not just because I was addicted, but because it helped me relax.
Between full time work, blogging and freelance writing I often forget to take a break from it all. Last year (2016/2017) at my full time job when it was coming up to our yearly holiday re-set in April I still had 3 weeks left to take which meant I hadn’t planned it out well throughout the year. I did not make the same mistake this year (2017/2018) because I realised that I needed them to be more evenly spread out for my health.
I’ve learned to treasure the time I can spend hiding and really look after myself. I haven’t found a perfect balance yet, but I am getting there. The problem is I enjoy working, be it writing, blogging, my full time job. I enjoy it and forget to take breaks from it because of that which isn’t healthy. When I was off work with illness I felt like I was failing myself and every day I was off ill was just another failure under my belt. However, now that I am back full time I feel a lot better about it all. I needed it. The rest. The calm. The recuperation period.
If you feel like you never socialise, however, I would suggest giving yourself one night a week to see a friend because it will do you good. If you’re anything like me, you’ll find that they lift you up and give you a little boost to help you through the rest of the week. I often do this then spend the next night curled up watching something on Netflix as that’s the balance that seems to work for me.