Disappointment can be a hard emotion to cope with, we have certain expectations of how life should go and, well, it often doesn’t go our way. Every new day can bring more disappointment and, unfortunately, it’s a hard thing to avoid. Do you want to know how to cope with disappointment? I share my top tips below.
Don’t Take It Personally
It’s a very human thing to blame ourselves or our actions when we’ve encountered a disappointment, however this won’t help you get over it. This is when you have to remember that the world doesn’t revolve around you. If you didn’t get a job you wanted, there was probably someone more experienced than you or better suited to the company.
Look At The Big Picture
Disappointments are temporary, but the bigger picture lasts for the rest of your life. Think about your big plan, pick yourself up and move forward. One small disappointment shouldn’t stop you from getting on with your life. If anything you can learn from a disappointment and ensure you don’t experience the same one again.
Change Your Expectations
Maybe it’s time to make sure that your expectations are realistic. If you experience disappointment particularly often it’s probably time to get more realistic goals. There is absolutely no shame in this. Sometimes we just have to be brought back down to reality and come up with shorter term goals that are less ambitious to help us get back on our feet.
Learn To Control Your Emotions
This can be done in a variety of different ways, from meditation to counselling, learning to control our emotions is the best way to handle disappointment because you’ll be ready and able to cope before the disappointment comes. It will also help us in other parts of our lives are a bonus.
Don’t Dwell On It
It will only make you feel worse! The best thing to do is try to forget about it otherwise you’ll obsess over the small, meaningless details for weeks and blame yourself. Hang out with your friends, get on with daily life and eventually it will leave your mind by itself.
Understand That It Isn’t A Setback
What’s meant for you won’t pass you by, don’t look at it as a set back look at it as an opportunity that wasn’t right for you. It’s helped you become a bigger and better person and you can now move forward creating new experiences. Disappointments will happen in all aspects of your life, but they make you who you are and you’ll learn to value them.
If you know you’ve tried your best in every situation in life it will make disappointment easier to accept and handle because if nothing else you made your best effort. If you continue doing this, eventually your disappointment will lessen gradually and you’ll be in a happier place in life.
Take A Break
Remember to take care of yourself. Self care is very important when it comes to maintaining our mental health and disappointment is no exception. If you’ve had a disappointing day, take a break. Watch a film, go to a spa, take up a new hobby. Feel better about yourself!
Read more about how to cope with disappointment here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-clarity/201706/dealing-disappointment
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