Relationships are a lot of work at the best of times, but when there is a countrywide lockdown things become a lot more complicated. Some people are now spending 90% of their days with their partners indoors, while others are separated from their partners for an undefined amount of time. Both come with their challenges which is why I want to share how to make your relationship work during a lockdown.
For Those In A Relationship Living Apart
Make time to contact your partner daily, even setting a time each day so it’s something to look forward to. This way you stay in contact with each other and give yourself more structure to your day. Facetime/video chatting is important because you’re not just talking to them, you’re seeing them as well. It can make the world of difference.
This is important. If your other half isn’t responding to text straight away or seems to be in a bad mood, remember that you are both in the same situation and it may be getting them down. Be patient and offer to talk, if they resist give them some space. Chances are they’ll talk to you like normal the next day.
If you notice something off about your partner, ask them. This is a hard time for everyone with less support than normal. Be someone they can confide in, not just someone to snuggle with. This is your opportunity to connect more on an emotional level. Use it.
For Those Who Are Single
Yes, I didn’t forget about you.
Love Your Friends
Take this time to work on yourself and connect with your friends more. This will help you feel less lonely and strengthen your friendships. Make sure you utilise all your support networks, but also be a support network for them.
Don’t Give Up
It’s a horrible time to attempt to find a partner, but now is not the time to give up. People have more time to respond to you now and if there is a real connection it could become something more once this is all over. Some of the sites you can do this on are Love Jersey Singles, Belfast Dating Site, Gloucester Sex and Tayside Sex. It could be a really good thing to connect with someone new because it can create excitement which helps with overall mood levels.
If you do connect with someone and feel it may be a strong connection, why not suggest that you video chat to see if the connection is there face to face as well. After that there will be less nerves when meeting up once it’s all over.
For Those In A Relationship Living Together
This is the situation I am in, so these are close to my heart.
Yes, this is relevant for all of these sections, but this one most of all. It will be difficult and there will be falling out, but the important thing to remember is that you love them. Don’t ruin a relationship by being impatient and letting bad moods get the better of you.
Emotions are all over the place right now, so it’s especially important to be mindful to each other. The best thing you can do is ask your other half what they want and respect that. If they want time alone, let them have some space. If you want time alone make sure that’s respected too.
Take Turns To Make Meals
It’s important to keep a good balance and part of that is making meals for the both of you. You may not be used to eating together as much as you are therefore it’s important that you are dividing the work load evenly. For example, if one person cooks the other person cleans etc.
Don’t Do Everything Together
Trust me on this. You’ll be spending a lot of time together over the next month, so split up the time. I’d even suggest going for walks at seperate times to each other to get some alone time. It will drain you emotioanlly if you spend 24/7 together.