AD| How To Maintain A Long Distance Relationship

June 18, 2020
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Many of us find love in areas we don’t live in. This means that we have to balance our social life, work-life, and the challenges that come with a long distance relationship. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a relationship with someone who lives so far away, but I believe that anyone can do it. There are plenty of ways you can nurture your long distance relationship and keep the romance alive. Below I share my top tips for maintaining your long distance relationship.

I am by no means a relationship expert, but have been giving relationship advice to friends for many years and maintained my own relationship. These tips may not work for everyone, but they will hopefully work for some!

Set Boundaries And Expectations

It’s highly important that you set boundaries early on in the relationship. Both of you need to write out clear expectations of the relationship and stick to them. If you don’t want to be bothered at work you need to communicate that. If you don’t set boundaries you’ll start to get frustrated with each other and your long distance relationship will begin to break down. Your other half can’t live up to expectations you haven’t laid out.

Communicate In Your Long Distance Relationship

Communication is vital in any relationship, but it is especially important in a long distance relationship. If you don’t communicate regularly you will lose your close bond and grow apart. Whether it’s texting each other every day or video chatting once a week, make sure you’re communicating regularly. This is especially important if you aren’t able to visit each other for a while.

Find A Good Balance

Communication is important, but it’s important to find a good balance with it. If you’re in contact too much, you may lose interest in each other and find yourself detached from everyday life. If you’ve met on a Edinburgh Sex Site or you may be used to messaging constantly, but it’s a good habit to stop messaging as much once you’ve met in person. This means you’ll have more to talk about when you do manage to meet up.

Ensure Visits Are Even In Your Long Distance Relationship

If you’ve realised that your partner is visiting you a lot more than you are visiting them, it’s time to make a change. It’s important that the relationship is a partnership. In a long distance relationship, it’s vital that you make sure you’ve doing things fairly otherwise one of you will get tired and slowly begin making less effort. Even ask if meeting halfway could be a good alternative to making the full journey. It’s only fair that you are willing to make the journey too.

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Know Each Others Schedules

There is nothing worse than feeling ignored because you’ve accidentally phoned your partner during their working day. This is especially important if you’re living in different timezones. If you know when your partner is free and when they’re busy you will never feel like a burden or feel like you’re bothering them.

Make Weekly Plans

Ensure that you’re making plans with your other half weekly. Whether it’s a video chat, video date or meeting up this is important to keep the connection strong. When you’re in a long distance relationship it can be easy to lose track of time and forget to call your significant other unless you’ve already got one scheduled.

Be Patient In Your Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships take a lot of work. If you’re starting to get frustrated and finding that something isn’t working for you, talk to your partner. Make sure you remember that changes won’t happen overnight. Patience is key to maintaining the relationship because you won’t be able to see each other all the time. It will be hard, but with a bit of patience, love, and understanding you will make it through.

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  • Reply lifestyleseason June 18, 2020 at 7:07 pm

    Great post! Thank you for the advice!

  • Reply Unwanted Life June 18, 2020 at 7:34 pm

    Me and my partner live on opposite sides of the city, so it’s not technically a long distance relationship, but it can often be like one, especially during lockdown. Especially as we plan to never live together, but rather close to each other.

    Making time for each other is important, video chats and video dates are good during lockdown, and in general. But remember to respect each others personal space too, don’t remind all their attention just because you can’t physically be together

    • Reply Jodie Paterson June 18, 2020 at 7:36 pm

      Yeah, definitely important to respect personal space.

  • Reply Natasha Evans June 18, 2020 at 10:39 pm

    These are some really useful tips! Me and my boyfriend are partly long distance when not at university so it’s always harder in holidays to see each other as we go back home. I think having good communication and calling lots really help!

    Tash –

    • Reply Jodie Paterson June 18, 2020 at 10:42 pm

      Thanks for stopping by! I can imagine the holidays feel linger than they are when you’re not with each other

  • Reply nortoncharity June 19, 2020 at 12:22 am

    These are all such great tips for maintaining long distance relationships. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply adamjnew85 June 19, 2020 at 12:28 pm

    I had a long distance relationship once, many years ago now. I could have done with these tips then, it didn’t work out at all

    • Reply Jodie Paterson June 19, 2020 at 12:30 pm

      It’s so tough when you’re starting out and have never done it before. Very easy to make mistakes

  • Reply Lauren June 19, 2020 at 5:16 pm

    Great tips! I honestly don’t think I’d cope very well with a long distance relationship!

    Lauren |

    • Reply Jodie Paterson June 19, 2020 at 5:17 pm

      I’ve had a few people saying that to me! It is really hard to not see your partner much.

  • Reply Tarnya June 26, 2020 at 3:35 pm

    I like knowing when i’m going to see the person next or planning in film date nights where you watch the same films together on skype etc!

    • Reply Jodie Paterson June 26, 2020 at 3:35 pm

      Yeah it’s great to have something to look forward to!

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