Consider These Important Things Before You Get Married
For most people, the perfect wedding day represents the highest seal of their love relationship. But beyond the glamour, smiles, tears of joy, and merry-making that comes with this beautiful day, so much work goes into making it work long-term. Many people may argue that love is the most important thing. But it is also essential to ensure that you put all the necessary measures in place to ensure that you create the long-lasting marriage you wish to have. So, are you getting married soon? Congratulations! Now, take the time to consider the following things before you say, “I do.”
Know what your deal breakers are
No one is perfect, and although most people believe that love hides imperfections, it is best to know your limits. Many people have found themselves holding on to marriages and relationships, even to the detriment of their health. No matter how much you love your future spouse, it is crucial to draw the line concerning things that should make you walk out of the marriage. Chief among such deal-breakers is domestic violence or abuse, which many experts believe is more than enough reason to step out of any marriage.
A prenup may not be the most romantic word to think of when you are making wedding plans. But if you have already amassed wealth or access to substantial family wealth, it is best to consider this subject. That is especially important if you have to go through the dreaded process of filing for a divorce. In such cases, your divorce solicitors will be able to see you through the divorce process and ensure that you do not lose your finances or assets in the process.
Your personal goals and career
Many people have ended up putting their career and personal goals on hold after marriage, especially when kids come into the picture. If there is something you’re absolutely passionate about, you need to consider it before marriage. Take the time to speak with your future partner and create a plan to help you raise a family without sacrificing your personal goals. It is crucial to find ways to support each other’s career advancements and goals, instead of one person needing to put their dreams on hold to raise the family.
Having and raising kids once you’re married
It is always important to have that discussion about raising kids before you enter into a marriage. Many people have made the mistake of leaving out this topic to realize that partners are not interested in having children or vice versa. Knowing where your future partner stands on this subject will help both of you decide what your options are. For example, if you both want to have kids, how many, and at what point in your marriage? If one (or both) of you isn’t interested in having kids, what are your alternatives? Are you open to adopting where possible? Discussing this topic as early as possible will also help you decide to go ahead with the marriage.
If you need more assistance, you should consider couples therapy as an option.
*This is a contributed post