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Insecurities hit us in every aspect of our lives. Especially in places where we are putting our whole selves out there, like dating. You want to make the best impression on people you’re meeting on dating apps. Suddenly you’re reminded of all your insecurities. Hiding them from potential dates will not benefit you. Chances are that they will love the things you are insecure about. At least they will if they truly like you for you. We all face these insecure feelings and often the only person who cares is yourself. So how can we overcome these insecurities?
How To Overcome Dating Insecurities
Learn To Not Take It Personally
When you’re online dating, you will encounter some rejection. Most of the time it has absolutely nothing to do with you. They may have met someone else who is just a better match for them. Maybe they’ve decided that they’re too busy for dating right now. Either way, you have to learn not to take it too personally. It’s much easier said than done, but pick yourself up and move on. The right person is out there for you, it just isn’t them.
Remember That You Hold Some Control
You have just as much control in deciding to date these people as they do for you. At any time you can walk away. Don’t hold on to someone just because they compliment you and are nice to you. You are better than that. If they don’t give you butterflies and you can’t imagine your life with them, cut them off and don’t feel guilty about it. This will give you a confidence boost because you will realise that if you aren’t enjoying someones company you are allowed to let them down.
Be Kinder To Yourself
Show yourself some self-love and learn to talk about yourself in a positive manner. When Cambridgeshire Dating you’re likely to be competing against people who have a lot of self-love and confidence. You can do this in many ways, but what I have found helps is looking in the mirror and being kinder to myself. This can be as simple as pointing out all the things you love about your body, or just saying the words “I love myself” over and over again. You’ll build up confidence and your insecurities will slowly fade away until you aren’t thinking about them anymore.
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Live In The Moment More
If you’re a planner like me, this will be difficult. However, it’s a huge help when it comes to insecurities. You won’t be having fun if you’re constantly worrying about things. Teach yourself how to enjoy the moment you’re living with this person and you’ll find that they probably don’t notice the things you’re insecure about. If you’re both having fun with each other and you are able to switch off, you may have found yourself a match.
Yes. This will be a struggle. But if they have messaged you “ok” on your Cambridgeshire Dating site or dating app, they probably mean exactly that. Don’t obsess over the fact that it’s a one-word response. They probably aren’t bored of you. They may be busy or tired. If you’re anything like me, you spend so much time overanalyzing that you forget to actually enjoy the relationship. Getting over your insecurities will be easier if you aren’t worrying about every little thing the other person is saying.