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First dates can be really exciting, especially if you really like the person. Even better is if the first date is going really well and you definitely want to see them again. The big question, however, is how do you secure that all-important second date? It isn’t as daunting as it sounds and probably isn’t very much work if you’re already being really nice. Below I share just how you can secure that second date.
Securing The Second Date
Bring A Gift On The First Date
This isn’t essential, but it will make you stand out. It doesn’t have to be expensive either. Think back about your messages or conversations and try to find a gift that isn’t just flowers. If your date is really into Star Wars then find a Star Wars pen or sticker. This won’t only put a huge smile on their face, but will also have them remembering you for longer after that initial meeting.
Don’t Be Afraid To Message Them First
Once you’ve met up it can be tempting to wait for them to message you first. Don’t do that. If you have the urge to message them, do it (within reason, of course). It lets them know that they were on your mind and firms that you do want to see them again. Even if it’s just a quick message saying “I had a really great time, should we do it again?” it may be worth taking that step.
Study Before You Go On The First Date
Just to be clear, I mean study the messages you’ve been sending. If you’re Derbyshire Dating it’s important that you remember the conversations you’ve been having before you meet up. Remembering the small things, such as them liking cats, can make you stand out. It shows you have an active interest in them and what they like. Along with that, it also helps you start a conversation…even if you’re nervous.
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Be Present To Secure That Second Date
Don’t leave your date to do all of the talking. Be present within the conversation. Ask them questions, answer their questions and most of all make sure that you’re listening. The hope is always that you have a flowing conversation, however this doesn’t always happen. As with the above point if you’re showing an active interest in them, they will remember that. Pick up on the small things they are saying and ask questions, or reference them.
It goes without saying that being nice and polite is essential when Derbyshire Dating. This could be anything from opening a door for them, pulling the chair out for them, or even just offering to split the bill. The small things all add up. It’s not always about a big grand gesture, but also about how you treat them and the people around you. If you’re rude to the waiter they form an opinion of you there and then. First impressions do matter, so be nice and polite.
Don’t Overdo It
Don’t go overboard. If you come across quite intense you’re going to scare people off. It’s fine to bring a small gift, but don’t bring them anything unreasonable like an overly expensive bottle of champagne. Even if you’re excited, don’t talk about them meeting your family and friends. I’d even avoid talking about your future together at this early stage. Keep it cool. Act the same way you do around your best friend because that’s essentially what you’re trying to find.
Don’t Forget To Ask
The most simple one. Don’t forget to ask for a second date. Or at least ask if they want to meet up again. It’s surprisingly easy to forget to do this if you’re having a really great time, and can even be intimidating if you’re worried they will say no. You never know unless you try, as they say, so give it a shot.