First impressions come in many different areas of our lives. From dating to work to education. You will spend a lot of your time meeting new people. A lot of people will tell you that a first impression doesn’t matter, but that simply isn’t true. If you’ve made a bad one you’ll always be known as the person who did X or said X. They might end up dreading hearing your name because of that first meeting. So what is the best way to make a good first impression? Below I share my top tips to ensure that your first meeting is a good one.
How To Make A Good First Impression
Don’t Be Late
If you’ve set a time to meet up, don’t turn up half an hour late without a good explanation. Especially if you have their phone number and can phone/message if you’re running late. It’s never a good look to be running late, and the person you’re meeting may have just moved on by the time you turn up. It makes a lousy first impression and isn’t worth the hassle of rescheduling in most cases. So try to be on time, early or only a few minutes late.
There is nothing worse than meeting someone who drags our mood down. Don’t be that person. People will find you tiring and won’t want to see you again. If you find yourself being quite negative, simply apologise and change your attitude to be a bit more positive. If you’re having a bad day, that’s fine, but maybe try asking for advice instead of complaining. Especially if it’s the first time meeting someone.
Have A Friendly, Approachable Look
No one wants to approach someone who seems like they’re in a bad mood. If you sit with a face on the whole time you’re going to give the impression that you’re bored or not enjoying being there. Try smiling and generally acting interested. You’ll make a much better impression and people will be more likely to call you again. The other side of this is that if you act and look friendly others are more likely to return the niceness and you’ll have a better time too.
Engage With People Talking To You
Ever had someone sit on their phone instead of engaging with your conversation? Annoying isn’t it. Don’t be that person. Rudeness doesn’t make anyone look good. You also probably won’t get a good impression of the people around you either if you aren’t even listening or responding to them. When you leave it’s likely that they will all talk about you, even if it’s just a small comment like “they’re nice” or “they seemed rude”, let it be the first one and keep people on your side.
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Don’t Be Afraid To Be The Person Who Starts The Conversation
If you find yourself in the middle of an awkward silence, break it. If you’re the one who starts the conversation people will remember that. It will make you seem outgoing and confident and people will enjoy that there isn’t a silence to break. Everyone will have a better time because of you and it will show. They’ll all be hoping you’re at the next gathering and actively invite you to more events. This is a good position to be in. It might be nerve-wracking, but I promise it will pay off.
Show That You’re Listening To Make A First Good Impression
I appreciate that this isn’t advice that suits everyone, but making eye contact or actively engaging and asking questions in a conversation will make the other person feel listened to. This makes a really good first impression because it shows that you aren’t self-centered and are willing to listen to other people’s stories, even adding to them when you can. It shows that you care about them and will be very helpful when making a first impression.
Making A Good First Impression When Dating
You Have 2 Opportunities For A First Impression
In this day and age, we have online dating which allows us to get to know a person before we actually meet them. This is great because it means we essentially get two first impressions. Maybe even three if you include the online dating profiles. So when you meet in person for the first time, you’ve already got a connection with this person. This is a bonus, as long as you can keep it up for in-person interactions.
Don’t Mislead People
Dating is hard for everyone, but if you’re actively misleading people it will only lead to disappointment for both in the future. Don’t make your first impression a fake one. It’s important that you’re showing yourself as honestly as possible so there aren’t any snags later on. Is there really any point in pretending not to be yourself? It won’t be much of a relationship anyway.
For Job/Education Interviews
This First Impression Matters The Most
It could be the difference between them hiring you and deciding that they’ll never hire you. If you walk into that building/video call with a bad attitude they will decide pretty quickly that you aren’t getting in. You will probably find that the interview is cut pretty short if you made a bad impression in your first few minutes. Make sure you are polite and friendly to everyone you meet/see. Dress well and make sure you’ve brushed your teeth/used deodorant. Do everything you can to make sure the impression you’re making is a good one.
You Can’t Get Away From Co-Workers/Classmates
This may sound harsh, but it’s true. You can’t change who your co-workers and classmates are, so making a good first impression is vital. You don’t want to be the one in the office that people exclude, you want to be the one that helps the quiet ones be included. If you walk in like you own the place and treat people like dirt, your work environment isn’t going to be a happy one, so make it easier for yourself and others by being nice, courteous and generally friendly.
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